Good Morning Monday Mavens!
It's Monday, November 19th, 2012, can you believe it? Where has this month gone? It's the beginning of the week and I don't think there is any better time for some SkinOwl Daily Inspiration. I hope you are all coming off a wonderful weekend! Let's get started!
When I write the word, "LOVE," what comes to mind? Family? Your job? Lost love? A new love? Personally speaking, the definition of love has changed over time. If I dated the same people now that I dated when I was 27 or 28, I don't think I would have fallen in love so easily. In fact, I wonder if I would have walked away completely, knowing what I know now. People have the ability to teach us where we stand on love. We go in with an open heart, fall in love, and then WHAM, we are IN IT, without the ability to alway see things clearly. Although not always easy to meander, these roads are instrumental in molding who and what we think we deserve.
As we know, many women have a type, or certain things that will, undoubtedly, turn them off. I can't tell you how many times I have fallen victim to "X-ing" someone out because they didnt have A) ... B) ... or C) ...
The reality is that all of us are 9 out of 10. We aren't going to have everything a potential mate wants, and neither will the men women pursue. BUT, the beautiful thing, the thing that gets overlooked so often, is the fact that people change when they love. In a good way. When interested in someone, we try new things, share experiences, and open our minds to things we might never have tried. For example, are you a world traveler dating someone who has never left the United States? Are you hesitant about going on a second date with someone who seems to put their work first? Are you afraid to move forward with an amazing man because he already has a child? Or an ex-wife?
It's pretty easy to make assumptions about WHY something won't work. It's pretty easy to "vote people off the island" when they don't live up to our standards. Sometimes we fear the things we aren't used to. I remember dating someone in the Military and it scared me, because I assumed I would be the married woman, home alone with her children, while her husband was off fighting in some war. I was operating on fear rather than hope.
My point is that, many times, in life, the best is yet to come. I know, I'm a broken record. When we loosen our grip and give things a FAIR chance, we run the risk of being surprised and happier than we expected. And not just in matters of love. Our expectations can limit us. They put stop signs up in places we don't TRULY need them. So, go ahead. Date the man in the Marine Corps. Fall in love with your neighbor. If you're feeling everything you want to feel and DESERVE to feel, then keep moving. You NEVER know where you'll end up with the "wrong" person. In the end, you will be RICH in the things that matter. And that's what matters most.